So, as recommended I call the AG office, got forwarded a few times and ended up speaking to someone at the State Troopers office, who tried to help. But she spoke to their attorney and asked if a copy of our deed (showing we owned property in Nebraska listed as our primary residence) would be enough and I wouldn't have to go through with a full appeal process. Well, this attorney (if she may call herself that), replied that now I would need to change my license over since I am claiming NY as my primary residence... she apparently needs to READ the spouse relief literature.... it is NOT a primary residence, it is a "home of record", meaning that I am not required to change everything over every time we move (which is nice because before here, we have not been in a location greater than 17 months.... Not pleased that someone is just answering on a whim without even looking into the specifics... to me that is just ignorant
So.... have not gotten anywhere with that. Still plan on meeting with JAG and filing an appeal... although not sure if it would be a cheaper to just wait... but based on the above, not sure if they will grant it to me then anyway....